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katte’s birth story | baltimore photographer

In the summer of 2011, I had the pleasure of photographing Katte’s homecoming.

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During this deployment, he had a bullet bounce off his Kevlar during a firefight – one year later, Katte found out she was pregnant.  Here is her birth story…

 

October 28, 2012, I was 4 days overdue.

I was tired, swollen, and well, just very tired of being pregnant. Like the rest of the Northeast we had been watching the news listening to the updates of Superstorm Sandy, living on the Jersey Shore my whole life, we had been through this before. A year earlier, Irene barely touched my tiny one square mile town right on the Raritan bay and we expected this to be the same. They were telling us to evacuate, but I was incredibly pregnant with three dogs, there was no where for my husband and I to go. At around 11 that night, my water broke. I had been have irregular contractions for the past two days, I immediately called my OBGYN and with everything going on he told me to wait until I could time them 10 minutes apart so, we went to bed.

The next morning the fire department came around handing out mandatory evacuation notices, but where were we to go? About an hour later my doctor calls and tells me to come to the hospital for him to check me, and if necessary an induction. Myself, my mother, and my husband loaded up the car and drove the 20 minutes to the hospital. The sky was dark, the wind picking up and the rain beginning to pour. When we arrived nurses were waiting with a wheelchair and it occurred to me I has having this baby tonight. I was admitted and brought into a birthing room, contractions were getting stronger and when my doctor came in to check me I was already 5 centimeters dilated. He started a slow pitocin drip and I was told to relax. That’s when the pain began, for two hours it was unbearable the nurse came in and asked if I wanted an epidural and I accepted. It had to be done twice because the first one only numbed my right side. By this time it was dark, and the hospitals power had gone out and was running on a generator. My husband and I were relaxing watching tv, when all of a sudden I felt pressure, I rang the nurse to come in and check my dilation. She pulled the sheet up, her eyes went wide and said “I hope your ready, this is it.”

My doctor and another nurse suddenly appeared in the room with all the needed carts and gadgets and told me to push. The epidural had worn off just enough so I could feel when, 15 minutes later at 8:52 pm on October 29, 2012 my beautiful daughter Delilah Magnolia Haviland was placed on my chest. She was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen, my husband hugged us both then she was taken to be weighed and measured, 6 pounds 15 ounces and healthy. My labor was extremely quick and easy. Unbeknownst to us, five minutes earlier the dunes in our tiny hometown broke, and the water destroyed our boardwalk and everything in its path. Our home had taken on 5 inches of water, we were lucky compared to most. When Delilah was taken to the nursery, another nurse came in and informed us my husband had to take my mother home, in the hell that was going on around us. We protested, but it had to be done. Thankfully, he got her safely to my aunts house which had remained untouched. He tried to go to home to check on our dogs, but the water was so high on the streets surrounding there was no way. When he tried to get out if town, another surge came and flooded our car, he called 911 and quickly grabbed everything out of the car he could, while the water rushed up to his thighs. EMS came and rescued him, but was told he had to go to a shelter and could not leave. I spend the first night with our beautiful baby girl alone. The next day, I went on my phone and started seeing pictures of the destruction, and could not help but to break down.

Our entire community was devastated. We had no car, an no home to bring her to. I was released two days later, and my husband came in my grandfather’s truck, before we went to my aunts house, where my entire family was. He drove me past where we were allowed to go, and my heart just broke. What was supposed to be the happiest day of our lives, was taken from us, and I realized we had a long road ahead. She was our light through this darkness, she is now a very healthy 4 month old, we have now bought a beautiful new home, and a brand new car. Our community, and the ones surrounding are still rebuilding, and are stronger then ever. I am thankful for a heathy and beautiful baby , and that the damage to our lives was nothing compared to most. Attached are pictures of our beautiful little girl, and the destruction our town survived.

And here is little Delilah Magnolia

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ten tips to hire a newborn photographer | baltimore newborn photography

1. Style

Does the photographer’s portfolio match the type of photos you would like? Is their work consistent? Is the photographer in a portfolio-building stage where they are still practicing and honing their craft or are they well established?

Photography is art and artists grow and change over a period of time. You can check out my blog or Facebook page to see my latest and most up-to-date work; as well as checking out the archives for my last 100 or more sessions. If you like what you see – the composition, the colors, the emotion – then you can rest assured you’d love your images too.

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2. Price

As the saying goes you get what you pay for. Photography is a luxury item and usually carries a high-priced tag.

Does the photographer offer payment plan so that you can have the photos you want at a schedule that’s convenient for you? Is their session price low but the print price out of your reach?

At Heartlove Photography Studios, there are no hidden fees. My client guide explains session pricing and then you choose the prints and products that fit your needs. There is no minimum order and I will personally guide you through the ordering process to be sure every question has been answered.

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3. Studio policies

Will they only give you a CD and not offer you heirloom quality products? Do they offer professional prints and the finished product? Do they only proof online or can you meet with your photographer for an in-person consultation to do custom art design?

In a tech-savvy world, digital files have their place – but high quality prints and products are just as important. In my opinion, having images live in a piece of plastic keeps you from truly enjoying them. My first priority is shooting art pieces that live on your walls and desktops and coffee tables – that you will enjoy every day. We will meet in person to create wall and album designs that fit your personality and interior design so when you leave my studio, you have beautiful artwork to enjoy every day …in addition to complimentary web-ready digital files to instantly share on social media with your friends and family 😉

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4. Safety

Do they know that safe ways handle newborn babies or does it seem like they’re just using a baby as a prop? Does the photographer have children of their own?

Posing a newborn baby is a great responsibility – their little bodies are still adjusting to life outside the womb. A photographer should not get caught up in competition to do the “latest and greatest” pose, but strive for contemporary images using safe poses.

After working with dozens of newborn babies (including my own precious little ones), I don’t have to guess if a baby is able to achieve certain poses. Some babies are comfortable in any position, others cannot bend and mould into the same shapes. Having the know-how to decide how to pose a newborn baby is of utmost importance. At Heartlove Photography Studios, we do pick out props and backdrops before a session – but never plan poses. Those are individual to each baby and are decided while working with that specific little person.

Besides physical safety, your child’s comfort is also my concern. I am careful to watch for early cues of discomfort – maybe it’s almost time for a feed or a wet diaper or just the need to be held. My goal is to catch those needs as they arise before the baby has to cry. If a baby cries in my studio, it is while their parents and I are doing everything we can to comfort them – not while I’m trying to take their photo.

10 Tips to Hire a Newborn Photographer5. Cleanliness

When you’re handling a naked newborn you can be sure that anything the baby touches well be covered in messes of all sorts. How does the photographer take care of their props? Which items are disposable and which can be washed? How are they being washed? Do they use a detergent that is safe for newborn skin?

Before I let anything touch a baby, I ask myself if I would use the same with my own infant. Every surface a baby touches has been sanitized with mild cleaning solutions. All of the soft surfaces – blankets, backdrops, wraps, etc – are washed in Country Save detergent. It is free of dyes, perfumes, enzymes, softeners – it’s the most gentle detergent I could find and I trust it even on my own baby’s cloth diapers. Anything I pull out or bring on location is washed between sessions, even if I don’t directly use it.

 

 

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6. Respect for the Postpartum Mother

Is the photographer only available to do studio sessions or do they also work out of the client’s home? Whether you had natural vaginal childbirth or C-section, the days following birth are difficult on your body. Does the photographer work around a new mom’s needs?

I’ll never forget my youngest daughter’s newborn session – 3 photographers came to visit only 3 days after she was born. While I had an easy labor and delivery, I ignored my body’s need to rest. I am thankful for those images of Madeline as an itty bitty baby, but all I remember was felling awful and crying hysterically.

When you come to my studio with a few-days-old baby, I recognize you are only a few-days-away from the equivalent of running a marathon (or two!) Your job is to find a comfortable spot in a rocking chair or the sofa and to put your feet up. I’d be thrilled if you took a nap. When it’s time for a sip of milk or the baby needs comfort that only can come from mama, I’ll be sure to wake you. Of course, if you’d prefer I can bring my studio right to your home instead.

On the top of my list for needs of a post partum mother, is protecting the breastfeeding relationship. Babies go through growth spurts in those early days and are teaching your body to make just the right amount of milk – I want to be sure I am not interrupting that. As a breastfeeding mom, I also know the difficulties that can arise in those first days and I have lots of experience counseling and coaching new moms to help them find success breastfeeding their babies.

7. Scheduling

How flexible are the dates and times for your newborn session? What if your baby has an extended hospital stay? Does the photographer schedule more than one session per day? Are their time constraints or pose limits?

Heartlove Photography Studios rarely schedule more than one session per day. There is no time limit, no pose limit – it’s a matter of getting the shots that you desire without keeping you there all day but without hurrying either. Your session is penciled in for your due date and I only take 2 due dates per week – that means after your baby arrives we can nail down a date and time and I’m sure to be able to work around your schedule.

I use a mix of natural light and studio lighting to be sure that no matter what time of day, I can accommodate you.

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8. Client Experience

Does your photographer care about the experience you have?

I hope from the first time we speak until the time I deliver your order you have a positive experience. I hope to make new friends.

In my studio, I have pacifiers, diapers, wipes and extra clothes so there is no worry that you might have forgotten something.  Nearly everything you see in my portfolio includes props that I own – you are welcome to bring anything you want to include in photographs, but you don’t need to bring a single thing.

You’ll have my cell phone number and know that I am available to answer questions and help in anyway I can to make sure your session results in the exact images you have envisioned for your walls and for your children’s children to enjoy for years to come.

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9. Giving Back

Does your photographer work in the community and share their talent with those who need it?

In my heart I truly believe that photographic art makes a difference in people’s lives. There are moments in life that when recorded, have no price tag. I don’t say this to brag about my good deeds – if you know there is a need in the world and you have the means to fill it, there is no excuse not to help.

Check out the causes tab for more information about how we give back to deserving families.

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I know I said 10 tips… but I ran out at 9  😉 If you are considering hiring Heartlove Photography for your maternity, birth or newborn photography needs – please contact me now and I’d love to have you over coffee and have a chat about what you have in mind.

 

Cheers, jill copy

 

 

eli & alexa’s birth story | baltimore newborn photography

In the words of their mother…

The birth of my children was not what I had planned. From the second I had thought about being a mother I had planned to have a very natural birth. I am not the type of person who liked even taking Tylenol. I guess that is where all my learning began. I found out I was pregnant two weeks after my husband returned from a year deployment. We were very excited and I was very nervous. I was a first year in veterinary school in Raleigh and my husband, a Marine, was stationed at Camp Lejeune – 2.5 hours away. I was going to have to go through this pregnancy mostly on my own- I was mentally prepared for that. I was not, however, mentally prepared the news at my first ultrasound- two heartbeats!
Twins.

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How were we going to pull it off? How was I going to be able to take care of myself alone pregnant with twins? What was I going to do when they got here? My husband was elated- there have been several sets of twins in his family. He was even joking about triplets in the waiting room before the ultrasounds. No birthing center would take me because of the risk and I was left with the realty that I would have to have medicated birth. I felt it in my bones when I had talked to my doctors. I was told that if both were head down I could try for a vaginal birth. I continued going to school and my pregnancy was very uneventful. I didn’t get a lot of support from people. Most people seemed to think I should take a year off. I was told in so many different ways that I wanted to do the impossible, but I tried to remain optimistic.
At my 18 week ultrasound, I found out I would be having a little boy and a sweet girl. One of each- perfect is what everyone would say when I told them. My favorite thing was when people would ask me if I was having a boy or a girl and I would get to say “both.”
It was amazing being pregnant. I could feel my daughter move as my son was pushed down into my pelvis I barely felt him. I could only feel his hiccups. I loved the feeling of carrying my children and they made me feel like I was the luckiest woman in the world. What a blessing! The babies both remained head down- that is until my daughter flipped at 32 weeks.
As we were nearing viability (33w6d) I went into what I thought was false labor. No pain just what I thought were Braxton Hicks contraction. I had developed a UTI that weekend and was planning on seeing the doctor on Monday. It was Sunday. We were having my brother in laws birthday party and I had 30 Braxton Hicks in an hour. I decided to call and they told me to come in and get checked. We got in the car (without hospital bags, phone chargers, or a camera) and went to be checked. We just did not feel it was time. When we got to the doctors they told me to get undressed and strapped 3 monitors on my belly- one for each baby and me. My daughter was being the difficult baby she was kept moving away from the monitor. I didn’t feel anymore tightening and I was afraid they would think I was lying. About an hour later my doctor told me that I was having contractions every two minutes. She checked my cervix I was not dilated but my cervix were soft. It was hospital policy that they were not allowed to stop labor after 34 weeks. So that mean they had 6 hours to try to stop mine! I would be 34 weeks the next day. So the race was on. I was hooked up to fluids and had to take a bunch of medication including first steroids shot out of two shot series to help with the babies’ lungs (takes 12 hours to help their lungs). All to no avail.
I was checked at midnight. I had dilated to 3, without a single bit of pain. We did an ultrasound to check the babies. My daughter was still breech and estimated to be more than a pound bigger. They told me that they would be willing to do a breech extraction if the size gap wasn’t that big. Having a bigger second baby puts you at risk of dystocia.
The doctors told me to go to sleep and we would check progress in a few hours. My husband slept well – haha. I was up to the bathroom what felt like every 5 minutes because of the fluids. I was hungry and thirsty but because of the situation they would not let me eat or drink. I woke up and called my sister. I wanted to see if she would bring my notes so I could study for my test that week (she was 7 weeks behind me in her pregnancy).
I was checked- at 5. The morning doctor said it is time to make a choice because the babies would be there today. That was actually the first moment that I actually realized this was it. My sister arrived and my husband told her to call everyone and let them know we would be having babies today. So much for my studying. They had a team of neonatologist come and talk to me about the possible complications of having two premature babies especially since my steroid shot did not have long enough to work. I was scared out of my mind. I just wanted them out and safe. I was scared of my daughter getting stuck.
This is the part of my story where I realize how useful education is.
Since having my children I have learned that a vaginal birth with a breech baby b is possible. At the time I just did not know and made a decision out of fear (and misrepresented facts). So I went with a c. section. Within 30 minutes of finding out that it was going to be their birthday they were here. I heard a few gurgles then I heard my son come into the world. Screaming!
They told me they probably would not cry. I broke down. My sweet boy was here. They ran him by but I didn’t have my glasses on so I didn’t actually see him. I could hear him screaming in the next room over. He had great lungs. Then I heard my daughter. If I thought my son was screaming loud- I was wrong! My daughter came into the world hollering! She was a spitfire from the beginning. I could tell when they ran her by me.

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On October 10, 2011 I became the mommy to 4lb 4oz Richard Elijah at 10:17am and 4lb 7oz Alexa Neveah at 10:18 am. Only 3-ounce difference! I could have had a vaginal birth. They allowed my husband to bring me the babies but then they were rushed to the NICU before I could even kiss them. I went to recovery then to my room. They wheeled me through the NICU on the way so I could see my babies. They were so small. I was scared to even touch them. My whole family was waiting in my room for me. It was nice. I hadn’t even called and they were there because of my sister. I didn’t have any pictures to share as we did not bring a camera. The lactation consultant came in and taught me how to use the breast pump. I didn’t get to really see the babies until 12 hours after I had them. I didn’t pick them up just watched and they watched me. They slept a lot better with me there. It was a relief they recognized me after the lack of bonding directly after delivery. The next morning the NICU called my room and let me know it was okay to try to breastfeed. Both babies got it on the first try (it was also the first time I held them)! The babies continued to do well. They got their IVs taken out on day 2 and needed no additional treatment just needed to grow. They had never even needed oxygen!
After 5 days my time at the hospital had expired. I had to leave them. It was the worst day of my life. I broke down that morning setting out the preemie clothes my sister had picked out for the babies. Leaving was even harder. All logic pointed to them being home soon but I was worried they would feel scared and abandoned. I cried all the way home. I continued pumping when I couldn’t make it to the hospital, as it was 30 minutes away. I would bring my milk everyday. We got to the point that they told me to stop bringing milk because I was taking up the whole freezer. The babies were doing so well they were termed the “rockstar babies”.
On their 9th day of life they came home! We shortly mastered breastfeeding and life with twins. Two weeks after I had my children I returned to school. My husband had leave saved up from his deployment and he was able to stay home with the babies for 8 weeks. It has really has been a dream. My life is forever changed. They are now 16 months old and I am getting ready to start my final year of vet school. My husband is no longer in the Marines and has been living with us for a month now. I can’t believe we did it but most importantly I can’t believe I did it. I love the look on the faces of those who doubted me when they see I have persevered. Being a mom has taught me many things but most importantly
I have the strength to do anything that I set my mind to. I am, as everyone at school puts it, a superwoman!

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megan’s birth story | baltimore newborn photographer

One of my favorite pastimes is reading birth stories – there is something magical about the days and nights when babies are born.  When Megan sent me her thoughts on all 3 of her babies’ births – ranging from traumatic to healing – I really wanted to share them.  You can see more images from sessions with Megan here.

If I’ve photographed your maternity, birth or newborn photos and you’d like me wto share your birth story – please e-mail me at heartlovephotography@live.com.

 

In her own words, Megan’s birth stories…

 

I have wanted to write my experiences about child birth for some time now. My oldest is 4, then I have a 2 year old, and my precious 5 month old. All boys. All perfect. My first pregnancy was amazing. I was on cloud 9 the moment we found out about Jackson. My husband and I had been trying to conceive for almost a year at that point, and truly…I was worried, but thankfully we had no issues. Except one. My due date. 3 weeks after my husband was to leave on his first deployment. I was OK with it. I was scared, but knew I would survive, and he would come home to a 6.5 month old. Well, my little Jackson decided to be a stubborn tush {yes, I call him that} and be breech. We found out at my 32 week appointment. I was sure his head was in my ribs, but the midwife was SURE it was his bottom. Well, I was right. She assured me he would turn, and sent me on my way. Well my next appointment was with another provider in the practice. What an amazing doctor. Just overall nice, and honest {I thought}. He wasn’t confident in turning breech babies, and I wasn’t confident at all. I didn’t know why he was breech, and frankly, I was OK with him being breech. A scheduled c-section meant I could plan. I could make sure I had help, and maybe, just maybe my husband could stay those 2 weeks till I delivered. The time came, and my husband left. I was 37 weeks pregnant with a scheduled date 2 weeks away. Such is life in the military…My mom arrived the day before I had Jackson, and I nervously prepared for his birth.

I was angry deep down inside. I wanted my husband there.  It wasn’t fair.

Jackson arrived at 8:03 in the am. Breech as breech could be.  His little head was stuck…maybe I should say big head.  The doctor allowed his birth to be filmed for my husband, and my mom was with me, and held him first.  Well after the “I am a momma” high wore off, the pain came.  Holy hairdo’s I was in pain.  I didn’t want to move, I couldn’t pick Jackson up without help, I couldn’t get out of bed…I couldn’t nurse.  It was sort of traumatic. I am pretty sure I did have a meltdown, and called the CO’s wife, and demanded my husband call me.  {Thank you Angela, you were and always will be an amazing friend}

 
Well one thing led to another…Jackson wasn’t nursing well, so I bottle fed….He was jaundice, so he needed light therapy….I went into A-Fib…off to a cardiac floor I went.

 
I wasn’t with my baby.  PPD here I come.

 
I write this with tears in my eyes because it was suppose to be an amazing time. And honestly, for me, it wasn’t.

 
I am not afraid to say I was depressed.  It was hard.  It took one day a few WEEKS later for something to click.  He was crying, and when I picked him up, he stopped, and looked at me and a calmness came over me and him.  I was his momma.  No one else.  I was all he had.

 
That was it, I think at that moment I felt the euphoric feeling most women feel at birth.  I was just then giving birth to my son.  The weeks and months passed, and I  fell more and more in love with my Jackson.  We co-slept.  My most favorite thing in the world.  Finally we welcomed our Marine home, and it was the most amazing moment.  At that moment, I watched him become a father.

 
Fast forward, and we were thrilled to find out we were expecting #2, another boy. With no deployment in sight, I was excited.  Without a lot of knowledge, I decided to take the easy road.  Another c-section.  With a midwife who assured me my uterus would explode, I was scheduled.  I was ok with it.  At 28 weeks my Logan had decided he wanted out.  We were returning from a trip to Minnesota, and when we landed contractions were 2 minutes apart.  Scared, I called my OB…they said “go to the hospital” I must have been in a daze, because I heard “come to the hospital” so we drove…an hour….to my OB.  When we arrived, they looked at me in shock.  She meant the hospital in Raleigh, because if they couldn’t stop labor, that was probably where we would end up.  As I laid there in that hospital, and the contractions kept coming, no matter how much I drank or relaxed…I was so nervous.  What would I do with a premie?  Hours passed, and finally they decided to give me steroids “just in case” for his lungs, and then a few shots to stop labor. I begged for those shots, because I have a minor heart issue.  SVT, no biggie, I just get irregular rhythms at times, but the medicine to stop labour was a drug that could send me into SVT or A-Fib again.  I knew it was the last resort, and thankfully it worked.  It worked at 28 weeks, and again at 32 weeks.  I guess he was anxious.  My little Logan arrived at 39 weeks via c-section.  He was perfect.  His daddy cried, as did I.  I think at that moment, I was at peace with Jackson’s birth 2 years prior.

 
Again, fast forward 2 years…My sweet little Everett.  #3 was on the way.  A surprise, sort of.  We were excited!  I was determined to find a doc to vba2c me.  Out here in Cali, I thought they would be all over.  Not so much.  I researched, and called a few OB’s.  My first OB didn’t do them, wouldn’t do them, and decided I was high risk.  She sent me to every single doctor known to man.  Why?  I don’t know.  A bout of pre-term labour, and a minor heart thing must have scared her ha ha ha.  I am thankful I found another  OB.  When I called, I asked if he would VBAC.  The nurse said he does {on occasion} so I thought I would give it a try.  I made the appointment, and we chatted.  He put my mind at ease and made me feel OK with a c-section.  I wasn’t broken.  I just had broken information.  I was at peace with a 3rd c-section.  My pregnancy went OK.  I was sick a lot, and fell in a hole and broke my foot, but that aside…the pregnancy flew by and finally it was time to meet #3.  I was thankful my BFF Jill flew in for the birth.  She photographed my maternity, birth & newborn pictures in a matter of a week.  She also helped me in my choice to nurse #3. I had never succeeded in nursing, but I was determined.  I am thankful for her, and her encouraging words.  5 months later he is exclusively breastfed, and a chunky monkey.  Anyway…back to his birth.

 
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39 weeks…#3…3 boys all born 2 years apart…all in September!

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Everett compared to his big brother as a newborn…
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I do feel cheated at times…it lasts for a second. I do wish I would have experienced a natural child birth, but as I sit here with my 3 perfect boys, I realize, that I am not broken, just mis-informed, and in the end they are here and healthy, and I would do it all over again.

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Thanks Megan!  You can check out her photography here.